On Father’s Day, contributor Charles Blow shares his experience of growing up without a father. He reflects on the absence of his dad, a gap left by the separation of his parents when he was five years old. His father’s battles with alcoholism further distanced him, transforming him into an unpredictable presence in Blow’s life.
Despite these challenges, Blow acknowledges his fortune in having supportive male figures, such as grandfathers, uncles, neighbors, and coaches. These men offered guidance, composure, and potential, providing a vital support system for a young boy.
Blow aspires for all boys in similar situations to experience the same community of men. He became inspired by Son of a Saint, an organization based in New Orleans. This group assists boys who have lost their fathers or whose fathers are imprisoned. Founded in 2011 by Bivian “Sonny” Lee III, who lost his own father at age three, the organization aims to change lives by providing mentorship.
In visiting the group’s facility in the Bayou St. John neighborhood, Blow observed how the organization operates as a community space. The location hosts classes, including popular cooking sessions, and meetings. The organization assigns case teams to each boy, addressing a range of needs from academic to emotional support.
Blow describes witnessing a wellness class where boys engaged in team activities, learning about their mental health without stigma. During his visit, he interacted with 16-year-old twin brothers, Michael and Robert, who joined the program after their father’s passing. The twins expressed joy about attending summer camps in the Northeast, funded by the organization.
When Blow asked these young men how they celebrate Father’s Day, many noted they spend the day with mentors from the program. These mentors have become significant figures, serving as the supportive male presence they need.
For more information: Son of a Saint, Charles M. Blow on Substack. Story produced by Robbyn McFadden. Editor: Emanuele Secci.