In our youth, the corporate ladder often appears as a dream filled with power, expertise, and prosperity, accompanied by fashionable attire. Reality, however, is different. Early alarms, quick desk meals, and an unhealthy reliance on matcha become common.
I loved my job and the career I built over 18 years. My journey spanned media, advertising, technology, and business development. I gained insights into the world and myself beyond words. Growing up, I wasn’t certain about my career path, but my communication strengths led me to study at university. My outgoing nature and love for meeting people naturally directed me to commercial roles.
Through various opportunities, I established a successful career. Promoted, managing teams, and working with prominent tech companies became my reality. I genuinely enjoyed my work for a long time.
What stands out most are the people. I cherished the human aspect of business and formed close friendships. While the experiences were rewarding, advancing in my career shifted my focus from enjoyment to targets and performance. This shift highlighted the difference between excelling at something and truly loving it.
I admire friends thriving in demanding corporate careers. Their talents and ambitions are noteworthy. However, I realized that success varies for everyone, prompting me to reconsider my definition of success.
Losing My Dad Reminded Me How Precious Time Is
My perspective shifted significantly three years ago when my father, Niall, passed away unexpectedly in May 2023. His loss emphasized life’s uncertainty, making things like promotions and salaries feel less critical. My dad’s love for life and belief in pursuing happiness encouraged me to question my priorities.
Grief changed me, showing me the importance of living in the present instead of constantly preparing for an uncertain future. In a new senior role earlier this year, I realized it wasn’t the right fit. Previously, I might have persevered to avoid affecting my résumé, but now I questioned why I was forcing myself into unhappiness.
We often forget to enjoy the present while preparing for tomorrow. Losing my dad reminded me of time’s value and made me consider his advice if he were present. My financial discipline over the years had provided a safety net. Though initially intended for retirement, it offered me new choices at 39.
I faced the discomfort of starting anew. Quitting my corporate job and relinquishing regular income in my thirties was daunting but necessary. I questioned the reasons behind saving for so long and realized it provided options, not just wealth.
In September 2026, I resigned without another job lined up, opting to explore my desires. Leaving the comfort of a senior corporate role led to a blank calendar, bringing mixed feelings of relief, excitement, and fear. Unemployment changed how I identified myself. However, it also opened up exciting possibilities.
Do The Thing That Scares You
I don’t have all the answers. Some days bring excitement, while others raise doubts. But I now explore my interests rather than following a predictable path. Currently, I’m considering freelance and consulting roles and allowing time for creativity without pressure to figure everything out immediately.
It’s acceptable to question your life, even if it’s amazing. Pride in your career and gratitude for opportunities can coexist with the desire for change. I’m not suggesting everyone quits their jobs. Instead, I’m exploring new possibilities and urging others to take the chance to overcome their fears.
Without any social media presence for years, I shared my journey on Instagram and attracted nearly 50,000 followers quickly. This new community supports people reconsidering their careers and life goals. I founded The Common Club to connect like-minded individuals, offering events for those feeling disillusioned.
Starting anew and embracing opportunities at any age is valid. Building a financial runway, ideally covering six months of living expenses, provides more choices. This doesn’t mean never working again but offers freedom to decide the next steps.
I’m approaching 40 and, for the first time in a while, I feel excited about my future. Lisa Filgas, 39, lives in London with her partner, Jouvan. She enjoys traveling, reading, Pilates, live music, and reality TV. After leaving the corporate world, she shares her journey on Instagram.