Kitty Horblit, Karli Manship, and Hannah Bruns dance at Stud Country, a national queer line dancing event, on March 25, 2025, in Brooklyn, N.Y. A recent gathering showcased the vibrant queer community as people came together to celebrate through dance.
Finding Your Place
Jolie Elins, 25, shares the moment they discovered their queer community. It was at Stud Country in Los Angeles a couple of years ago. Surrounded by cowboy boots and fishnets, Elins felt a sense of harmony dancing among others who shared their interests. Elins now regularly joins friends for line dancing in New York City.
Queer spaces such as dance nights, kickball leagues, or book clubs offer affirmation to those exploring their gender identity or sexuality, explains Elsa Lau, a clinical psychologist. These gatherings create environments where individuals feel accepted and represented.
Such events also provide crucial support for those experiencing emotions like shame or grief related to their identity. Lau emphasizes the power of a supportive network.
Starting the Journey
Entering a queer space can seem daunting for newcomers, notes Sasha Jones, CEO of Cuties. Feelings of impostor syndrome often arise. People worry about fitting in or behaving appropriately, but Jones reminds newcomers that there is no right way to be queer.
To ease entry, newcomers should narrow their search to communities with shared interests or values. This might include seeking specific cultural or recreational connections. Using social media to find local events is one effective strategy.
Exploring New Avenues
While connection might come from familiar settings, unexpected opportunities can lead to strong bonds, says Sean Monaghan, co-founder of Stud Country. Trying activities outside one’s comfort zone, like queer bowling, can result in lasting friendships.
For those unsure about attending alone, Monaghan suggests inviting a friend. New environments can be more approachable with familiar company.
Creating Inclusive Spaces
Finding the right community might require creating one. Maya Satya Reddy, founder of Queer Asian Social Club, recommends starting spaces that reflect one’s specific cultural needs. Reddy’s initiative emerged out of a desire to connect with other queer Asian people. Organizing community-focused events can break down barriers of race and identity.
If existing events don’t resonate, organizing your own can be deeply rewarding, encouraging others to join and participate.
Seeking Connection
For areas lacking queer networks, engagement can expand online. Dheivanai Moorthy of Bluestockings Cooperative Bookstore suggests connecting through social media or literature by queer authors as alternative outlets.
Whether digital or physical, communities provide support and belonging. Although the journey may take time, finding a community aligned with your identity is achievable.